Ok as you all know my husband and I just moved into a house , which is great. I just recently became a stay at home mom , which is great as well. I can’t help but think that I may have made a bad choice ,as in being a stay at home mom. Let me tell you why. I could be overreacting as well.
I quit my job cause they made me promises and didn’t keep them. I became a stay at home mom , on the notion that my husband would continue to get overtime, now don’t get me wrong he makes pretty good money, but it seems that everytime we try and make things better and try to save money, by cutting back gas amounts and daycare, his hours get cut to 40 , which is normal , but when you count on overtime money to make ends meet you kind of think , oh god we are screwed.
this where I need advice , hence the title of my blog.
I have four children, girls .. great I love my girls but daycare is outrageous, and noone will hire me to work around the hours I need, in order for me to get my children to school, and get them home. now I am also going to say it is very hard to get a job in this world , unless you are willing to drive the distance or plan on moving to another state, which will not happen. I have a Associates degree in (applied science) Paralegal and it is basically worthless, unless you have experience.
I graduated from high school , got married had kids and worked in gas stations and grocery stores and factories to make ends meet , so needless to say I donnot have experience, its kind of like credit , you have to have it to get it and you have to get to have it, so how do you get it if noone will give it to you. I have always wondered that.
So I am sitting here thinking we are not going to make it with just his income, Yeah and all of you say learn how to budget , but sometimes things happen that are beyond your control and you lose track of the budget. with four kids its very unpredictable.
So as I am thinking to myself , I am wandering, should I go and get a job, and is it worth it to pay daycare, for gas and anything else that costs extra. This is where the debate comes in.
Stay at home mom: (pros) No daycare to pay, no gas to pay, children have there mommy to help them, get through there life, to help them with homework and anything else they need help with. I don’t have to have a specific schedule , and I don’t need to wear a uniform or a name tag.
(cons) No extra money, a chance of getting behind on bills, no social time.
Working mom; (pros) extra money to have a safety net, some social time, benefits and a pay check, bills caught up , no worries. (cons) no time with my kids or my husband, a daycare bill, more money to spend on gas. snow in the winter time and even more money in the summer, cause then I will have to pay for four kids in daycare, to top it all of we make to much money to get any help from 4cs and food stamps.
So I guess I am just kind of stuck between a rock and a hard spot, do I stay home and survive shitcreek every week, or do I get a job and help my husband with the bill money and the support of four children, I am just going to add (girls).
so if any of you have any advice , please write me back and let me know what I could do.
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