parenting

Am I being tested by my girls , where did I go wrong , what have I done, maybe I haven't done anything, but I sure feel tested.

Discipline , what is discipline....spanking your kids putting them in a time out honestly I don't know what to do anymore. discipline is almost obsalete, you spank your kids  then some nozy bitch whos kids are grown or who doesn't have kids of there own call dcfs and then you are in there files for years to come, because you are supposedly abusing your kids. I am sorry if I would have done what my girls did I would have gotten my ass whooped with a belt, my dad would not have hesitated.I think if a spanking does the trick then so be it , but then theres the .. almighty question what if someone saw.

heres the scoop... vandalizing the park , this is what my two older children decided to do yesterday.. why you ask and what.. lets just say they wrote bad words and bad names .. why is the question. this is where I question what I did I do wrong as a parent, did I not give them enough attention, I have four kids I have to divide the attention, I can't focus on one or two children and not the others. where did they learn those words, those names , was it me did I say something that triggered there reaction, or maybe they just saw that it was already vandalized and it was ok. I am always questioning my parenting. 

As a parent I have good patience , I have a cool go with the flo attitude, which probrabaly sometimes doesn't always work. Yet my husband doesn't take shit he doesn't stand for it , very authorative yet I still haven't learned from my mistakes. I yell at my kids it doesn't get through them , I spank them and they still don't get it. so this is where the question comes  what do you do if that doesn't work? ground them for a week , take away there tv , put the fear in there eyes by sending them to somebody that  maybe able to get through to them, and if that doesn't work then what. I am am kind of at a what do I do now point.

I thought I was a good parent , I may be but I am still messing up with them and I have to get better at discipline , and better at making decisions and following through. so if anyone has any advice please feel free to let me know.